Comments on: Why Complaining Doesn’t Work

By: Martyna Bizdra

Martyna Bizdra — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 21:07:49 +0000

Arrrrrr I hate complaining!

have I just made one?

let me just be more specific:

I love to be self- responsible!

thank you for the message
and ciao
M.

By: john hill

john hill — Thu, 18 Mar 2010 08:34:01 +0000

Interesting article. Discovered this just after discussing the situation of the endless complaining and unhappy coworker I work with with other staff.

My coworker incessantly complains about work, about the country we live in ( in a living abroad situation ), the native people of the country, working conditions etc ect.

I enjoy blowing a little steam off talking to him but after being around him for more than 20 minutes to an hour it gets very bleak and I feel the the world is a hopeless place. I try my best to avoid him. Reading this article really puts it into perspective.

What I would like to know is what is the best way of dealing with a person like this. I do my best to avoid any people who complain. Living abroad you meet and endless amount of unhappy expatriates who love nothing than to complain about the situation they are in.

Is there any solution? I guess I should just avoid such people and let them be miserable without dragging me into their black hole of complaints.

By: Pixil

Pixil — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 09:07:26 +0000

I’ll be the first one to admit to complaining but I make up for it by getting the job done. I agree it can be contagous, working on a unattrive projects or bad management is usually the culpret!

By: ammar hassan

ammar hassan — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 07:53:11 +0000

yeah, you are right maan! i was one of the complainers in this company but will try from NOW to won’t complain rather than try to accomodate and then make my complaints as suggestions. Thanks for this article

By: Mike Grace

Mike Grace — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 18:29:57 +0000

Great reminder post. +1 for “Poor = Put up first; shut up for now…” : )

By: Julius

Julius — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 02:35:30 +0000

When we see a problem, it is always better to offer a solution than to run our mouth and complain. I think most people like to use the excuse of having the right to express themselves while in fact they’re just complaining.

By: The Simple Machine

The Simple Machine — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 02:35:11 +0000

But the real question is that you have brought up your concerns in a positive manner (not complaining and whining) but you still do not see a change (in the situation or your bosses attitude).

How do you deal with that? Also, I agree with the comment above that when you complain you are potentially creating negative air. However, if everyone happens to agree about the situation than it just means others are experiencing the same problem. Which means that its not a problem of a persons attitude towards the problem.

Here is another question – how do you introduce a progressive change in a work environment that tries to stick to the “old” ways of doing things (e.g. not taking flex time)

My thoughts are posted here @
http://www.thesimplemachine.com/work-productivity-cycle/

By: Thera

Thera — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 18:59:31 +0000

“Complaining” can be productive when it’s polite and offers realistic solutions: after all if no one ever takes a stand, things rarely change and bad habits become the “we’ve always done that way” standard.

However complaining just for the heck of it won’t make you feel better nor be useful however, unless you’re letting off steam off work, having a beer with buddies for example.

By: Avery

Avery — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 17:25:59 +0000

These people will also go home and complain about work again and then about you. I can’t really think of anything more unattractive.

By: John Paul Aguiar

John Paul Aguiar — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 17:23:54 +0000

Complaning sucks, since 1. no one cares as much as you. and 2. in the end whatever your complaining about either still needs to get done, or will happens whether you complain or not..lol