Comments on: How to Deal with Bullying in the Workplace http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/ For People Who Want to Be Awesomely Productive Sat, 31 Jul 2010 13:26:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Mary M. http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-4805 Mary M. Mon, 03 May 2010 19:44:51 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-4805 Loved this article. It is true what you write, about how staying in the job isn't an option if the bully is the owner or an executive. I have a friend who resigned after being bullied for 4 years--she thought she could triumph over them. But she couldn't. She just became ill. Very good to communicate to people that it is highly that a target will be able to stay in a job without significant harm. I was bullied for a year once. Worst experience of my life, just the worst. How freaky it is to be punished for being extra competent! Loved this article.

It is true what you write, about how staying in the job isn’t an option if the bully is the owner or an executive. I have a friend who resigned after being bullied for 4 years–she thought she could triumph over them. But she couldn’t. She just became ill.

Very good to communicate to people that it is highly that a target will be able to stay in a job without significant harm.

I was bullied for a year once. Worst experience of my life, just the worst. How freaky it is to be punished for being extra competent!

]]> By: Anonymous http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-2925 Anonymous Thu, 11 Feb 2010 23:09:37 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-2925 This is a very serious problem that companies don't seem to care about at all. I have had this happen to me more than once while people just stood by. I stood up to the bully as one of the people commented below, but it made the bully act even worse. It started out with sexual harassment. This person should not be working period! I proved I was just as capable to complete the work, and did a very good job. If you report it to the company they don't care. The only thing that anyone seems to care about is money. They don't care about how the "target" is affected at all. This is a very serious problem that companies don’t seem to care about at all. I have had this happen to me more than once while people just stood by. I stood up to the bully as one of the people commented below, but it made the bully act even worse. It started out with sexual harassment. This person should not be working period! I proved I was just as capable to complete the work, and did a very good job. If you report it to the company they don’t care. The only thing that anyone seems to care about is money. They don’t care about how the “target” is affected at all.

]]> By: Angela West http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-355 Angela West Tue, 22 Sep 2009 14:46:35 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-355 I would say this is a valid argument :). You are completely right. Healthy debate and minor disagreements are key components of the average workplace. This article is referring to over-the-top behavior such as physical threats, deliberate isolation, constant abusive language etc. that are characteristic of bullying behavior. Perceived slights and occasional tiffs could only be construed as bullying behavior by someone who is being paranoid. While everyone's feelings are valid, even someone who may be being a bit paranoid, you are correct that we need to make sure that "bullying" doesn't become a catch-all for any kind of negative social behaviors in the workplace. I would say this is a valid argument :) .

You are completely right. Healthy debate and minor disagreements are key components of the average workplace. This article is referring to over-the-top behavior such as physical threats, deliberate isolation, constant abusive language etc. that are characteristic of bullying behavior. Perceived slights and occasional tiffs could only be construed as bullying behavior by someone who is being paranoid.

While everyone’s feelings are valid, even someone who may be being a bit paranoid, you are correct that we need to make sure that “bullying” doesn’t become a catch-all for any kind of negative social behaviors in the workplace.

]]> By: Jarryd http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-342 Jarryd Tue, 22 Sep 2009 01:18:05 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-342 I guess it depends on the environment. As with your example with a larger female to male ratio, the stronger personality would be with the women. I'd assume it would be the same vice versa. A good argument or discussion is always healthy for the workplace but just as long as it's constructive and not for targeting a person or what not. As with any job, if your workplace is giving you problems and nothing is being done about it, it's time to move on. I guess it depends on the environment. As with your example with a larger female to male ratio, the stronger personality would be with the women. I’d assume it would be the same vice versa.

A good argument or discussion is always healthy for the workplace but just as long as it’s constructive and not for targeting a person or what not. As with any job, if your workplace is giving you problems and nothing is being done about it, it’s time to move on.

]]> By: Claude http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-339 Claude Mon, 21 Sep 2009 23:11:57 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-339 During my 15 years of professional experience with mostly male (IT) and female majority (MARCOM) teams, the conflict has been between women with strong personalities. Why does this happen? I am not sure, but I am learning by observing similar competitiveness from my two daughters. I think reasonable argument results *healthy* competition. But if you find yourself in a truly abusive workplace your best bet is to leave that job. Chances are you will not encounter the same behavior again. During my 15 years of professional experience with mostly male (IT) and female majority (MARCOM) teams, the conflict has been between women with strong personalities. Why does this happen? I am not sure, but I am learning by observing similar competitiveness from my two daughters.

I think reasonable argument results *healthy* competition. But if you find yourself in a truly abusive workplace your best bet is to leave that job. Chances are you will not encounter the same behavior again.

]]> By: Jarryd http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-323 Jarryd Mon, 21 Sep 2009 02:20:24 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-323 Begone, troll! Begone, troll!

]]> By: Claude http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-303 Claude Sun, 20 Sep 2009 01:16:24 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-303 Have you considered that maybe you're not been bullied and you're just paranoid? Some co-workers might think you're a bully if you ask them to contribute more than they think is normal. Have you considered that maybe you’re not been bullied and you’re just paranoid?

Some co-workers might think you’re a bully if you ask them to contribute more than they think is normal.

]]> By: Angela West http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-263 Angela West Fri, 18 Sep 2009 12:46:42 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-263 Thank you for sharing your story Kayle. It is funny, the better of a job you do, the worse it will get. We are taught to think that hard work is rewarded when it is exactly the opposite when you are the target of a bully. Thank you for sharing your story Kayle. It is funny, the better of a job you do, the worse it will get. We are taught to think that hard work is rewarded when it is exactly the opposite when you are the target of a bully.

]]> By: Angela West http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-262 Angela West Fri, 18 Sep 2009 12:36:15 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-262 Hi KJ: I would recommend the WBI's "Targets" page as a great starting point for a way through your situation. Know that despite what the bully is saying, you are most likely a target because you are a star at work, and don't give up hope. http://www.workplacebullying.org/targets.html Hi KJ:

I would recommend the WBI’s “Targets” page as a great starting point for a way through your situation. Know that despite what the bully is saying, you are most likely a target because you are a star at work, and don’t give up hope.

http://www.workplacebullying.org/targets.html

]]> By: Angela West http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-261 Angela West Fri, 18 Sep 2009 12:33:25 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-261 No problem Joni; I think a lot of people just think it is a regular part of the corporate culture. I know I did until I left the workplace with the bully and started reading up on the subject, so I never took the time to keep a journal, etc. in order to back everything up. I hope this article will help people in the same situation before it is too late to do something about it. No problem Joni; I think a lot of people just think it is a regular part of the corporate culture. I know I did until I left the workplace with the bully and started reading up on the subject, so I never took the time to keep a journal, etc. in order to back everything up. I hope this article will help people in the same situation before it is too late to do something about it.

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