Comments on: How to Deal with Bullying in the Workplace http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/ Work Better. Live Better. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 03:16:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: james http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-222779 james Sat, 04 Feb 2012 02:00:43 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-222779 I have been recently bullied at work and found that the only option was to hand in my notice and leave I didnt want to mention this on my resignation letter due to the stigma that is attached to it – now I am without a job and looking for another one and feel quite sad but my health is a lot better. I am extremely good at my job and I guess others feel threatened as I have only been in this job approx 1 year and I am showing them ways to improve things how to make the company better etc etc but I now see that people are very jealous and don't like getting the job done. I wish that I had never had the misfortune to join this company and personally see how they get away with things as this is not the first company that I have been bullied in and now it makes me feel that the UK is full of crap companies with incompetent staff who just like to do nothing and when they get someone in who can do all the work and more they pounch and get rid of them asap by what ever means necessary. I was singled out, ignored, belittled, had people interfere with my work and do things to stop me getting my job done. The one thing I do know is that the bullies usually remain where they are as they have tons of people to support and back them up. I would not wish this experience on anyone and I hope the bullies get what they deserve. I have been recently bullied at work and found that the only option was to hand in my notice and leave I didnt want to mention this on my resignation letter due to the stigma that is attached to it – now I am without a job and looking for another one and feel quite sad but my health is a lot better.

I am extremely good at my job and I guess others feel threatened as I have only been in this job approx 1 year and I am showing them ways to improve things how to make the company better etc etc but I now see that people are very jealous and don’t like getting the job done. I wish that I had never had the misfortune to join this company and personally see how they get away with things as this is not the first company that I have been bullied in and now it makes me feel that the UK is full of crap companies with incompetent staff who just like to do nothing and when they get someone in who can do all the work and more they pounch and get rid of them asap by what ever means necessary.

I was singled out, ignored, belittled, had people interfere with my work and do things to stop me getting my job done.

The one thing I do know is that the bullies usually remain where they are as they have tons of people to support and back them up.

I would not wish this experience on anyone and I hope the bullies get what they deserve.

]]> By: John http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-43482 John Mon, 18 Apr 2011 03:30:42 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-43482 This is a great article. Your forgot to mention another serious danger of bullying... columbine. If you read up on the massacre, it was two kids who were subject to intense bullying. I know the role of Columbine bullying has since been debated, but it couldn't have helped the situation. I know this is an exotic danger for corporations but it's too scary to simply ignore. This is a great article. Your forgot to mention another serious danger of bullying… columbine. If you read up on the massacre, it was two kids who were subject to intense bullying. I know the role of Columbine bullying has since been debated, but it couldn’t have helped the situation.

I know this is an exotic danger for corporations but it’s too scary to simply ignore.

]]> By: Mary M. http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-4805 Mary M. Mon, 03 May 2010 19:44:51 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-4805 Loved this article. It is true what you write, about how staying in the job isn't an option if the bully is the owner or an executive. I have a friend who resigned after being bullied for 4 years--she thought she could triumph over them. But she couldn't. She just became ill. Very good to communicate to people that it is highly that a target will be able to stay in a job without significant harm. I was bullied for a year once. Worst experience of my life, just the worst. How freaky it is to be punished for being extra competent! Loved this article.

It is true what you write, about how staying in the job isn’t an option if the bully is the owner or an executive. I have a friend who resigned after being bullied for 4 years–she thought she could triumph over them. But she couldn’t. She just became ill.

Very good to communicate to people that it is highly that a target will be able to stay in a job without significant harm.

I was bullied for a year once. Worst experience of my life, just the worst. How freaky it is to be punished for being extra competent!

]]> By: Anonymous http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-2925 Anonymous Thu, 11 Feb 2010 23:09:37 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-2925 This is a very serious problem that companies don't seem to care about at all. I have had this happen to me more than once while people just stood by. I stood up to the bully as one of the people commented below, but it made the bully act even worse. It started out with sexual harassment. This person should not be working period! I proved I was just as capable to complete the work, and did a very good job. If you report it to the company they don't care. The only thing that anyone seems to care about is money. They don't care about how the "target" is affected at all. This is a very serious problem that companies don’t seem to care about at all. I have had this happen to me more than once while people just stood by. I stood up to the bully as one of the people commented below, but it made the bully act even worse. It started out with sexual harassment. This person should not be working period! I proved I was just as capable to complete the work, and did a very good job. If you report it to the company they don’t care. The only thing that anyone seems to care about is money. They don’t care about how the “target” is affected at all.

]]> By: Angela West http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-355 Angela West Tue, 22 Sep 2009 14:46:35 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-355 I would say this is a valid argument :). You are completely right. Healthy debate and minor disagreements are key components of the average workplace. This article is referring to over-the-top behavior such as physical threats, deliberate isolation, constant abusive language etc. that are characteristic of bullying behavior. Perceived slights and occasional tiffs could only be construed as bullying behavior by someone who is being paranoid. While everyone's feelings are valid, even someone who may be being a bit paranoid, you are correct that we need to make sure that "bullying" doesn't become a catch-all for any kind of negative social behaviors in the workplace. I would say this is a valid argument :) .

You are completely right. Healthy debate and minor disagreements are key components of the average workplace. This article is referring to over-the-top behavior such as physical threats, deliberate isolation, constant abusive language etc. that are characteristic of bullying behavior. Perceived slights and occasional tiffs could only be construed as bullying behavior by someone who is being paranoid.

While everyone’s feelings are valid, even someone who may be being a bit paranoid, you are correct that we need to make sure that “bullying” doesn’t become a catch-all for any kind of negative social behaviors in the workplace.

]]> By: Jarryd http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-342 Jarryd Tue, 22 Sep 2009 01:18:05 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-342 I guess it depends on the environment. As with your example with a larger female to male ratio, the stronger personality would be with the women. I'd assume it would be the same vice versa. A good argument or discussion is always healthy for the workplace but just as long as it's constructive and not for targeting a person or what not. As with any job, if your workplace is giving you problems and nothing is being done about it, it's time to move on. I guess it depends on the environment. As with your example with a larger female to male ratio, the stronger personality would be with the women. I’d assume it would be the same vice versa.

A good argument or discussion is always healthy for the workplace but just as long as it’s constructive and not for targeting a person or what not. As with any job, if your workplace is giving you problems and nothing is being done about it, it’s time to move on.

]]> By: Claude http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-339 Claude Mon, 21 Sep 2009 23:11:57 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-339 During my 15 years of professional experience with mostly male (IT) and female majority (MARCOM) teams, the conflict has been between women with strong personalities. Why does this happen? I am not sure, but I am learning by observing similar competitiveness from my two daughters. I think reasonable argument results *healthy* competition. But if you find yourself in a truly abusive workplace your best bet is to leave that job. Chances are you will not encounter the same behavior again. During my 15 years of professional experience with mostly male (IT) and female majority (MARCOM) teams, the conflict has been between women with strong personalities. Why does this happen? I am not sure, but I am learning by observing similar competitiveness from my two daughters.

I think reasonable argument results *healthy* competition. But if you find yourself in a truly abusive workplace your best bet is to leave that job. Chances are you will not encounter the same behavior again.

]]> By: Jarryd http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-323 Jarryd Mon, 21 Sep 2009 02:20:24 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-323 Begone, troll! Begone, troll!

]]> By: Claude http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-303 Claude Sun, 20 Sep 2009 01:16:24 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-303 Have you considered that maybe you're not been bullied and you're just paranoid? Some co-workers might think you're a bully if you ask them to contribute more than they think is normal. Have you considered that maybe you’re not been bullied and you’re just paranoid?

Some co-workers might think you’re a bully if you ask them to contribute more than they think is normal.

]]> By: Angela West http://workawesome.com/your-job/how-to-deal-with-bullying-in-the-workplace/#comment-263 Angela West Fri, 18 Sep 2009 12:46:42 +0000 http://workawesome.com/?p=30#comment-263 Thank you for sharing your story Kayle. It is funny, the better of a job you do, the worse it will get. We are taught to think that hard work is rewarded when it is exactly the opposite when you are the target of a bully. Thank you for sharing your story Kayle. It is funny, the better of a job you do, the worse it will get. We are taught to think that hard work is rewarded when it is exactly the opposite when you are the target of a bully.

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